Cool intentions

Klutz encounters
Should you fall victim to dreamy-eyed clumsiness while you’re with your honey, don’t try to play it cool. Instead, get in touch with your inner distressed damsel: Give a playful pout and offer up an injured “ouch”. Then smile. Your guy’s protective side will surface as he rushes to help.

Gossip-mill mania
You’re nursing a secret yen for a certain someone; you tell a few friends and suddenly you’re feeling like tabloid fodder for the school paper. Switching school is not an option, but you still need to do some damage control.
First, find out who spilled. If a big-mouthed friend has gone public with the name of your crush, resist the urge to spread rumors about her. View her unfortunate loose lips as an opportunity to make contact. While the buzz about you two is still hot, catch your crush’s eye, smile and shrug your shoulders as if to say, “Can you believe how much talk we’re generating?” If he seems receptive, follow up with something bolder, like “Well, I guess my secret is out.”

Family flubs
There are easily one hundred ways you can blow it in front of his parents. Let’s say you woke his dad with a post –X Files phone call. Blurting out “I didn’t think anybody under 75 went to bed this early” is the wrong move. Instead, get your honey to initiate peace talks with his folks, letting them know you’re both sorry (after all, you didn’t make that late-night call to nobody). Then follow up with a short note apologising for your actions. Sending a nice note will win his parents’ forgiveness and their respect.

Bodily malfunctions
A mathematical formula exists stating that the longer you hang out in someone’s presence, the more likely your body is to do something wacky in front of him (love squared = humiliation x months). Maybe you’ll suck down a Coke and let out a belch, or you’ll sneeze something into your sweetie’s collar. Don’t fight the inevitable flaming blush, but also, don’t forget to consider your options. You can either ignore such transgressions or use humour to deflect them. A good rule of thumb: The grosser the breach, the better the’It Didn’t Happen’ strategy works.

Crisscrossed wires
Sometimes a crush communiqué can go astray before it even reaches its intended audience. Time is of the essence here; you have to set all parties straight before feelings get hurt. Console yourself by thinking of what a funny story this will make once you and your intended are actually a couple. Then get busy on your fix: Tell the wrong boy that while he’s cute and all, he was the victim of a faulty message system. And then, if you still want the right guy to be clued in to your intense adoration, drop some more hints.

Wrongful accusations
Irrational jealousy can be so embarrassing. When your Sherlock Holmes skills have led you down the wrong road of suspicion, summon your grace – and learn from your mistake. Apologise, have a good laugh and end it there. Don’t keep mentioning it (as in, “I can’t believe I thought you were cheating…”). That will emphasise your distrust. And the next time you discover evidence of supposed wrongdoing, ask him – before things get out of control.

Serious disasters
When you’ve done something completely nuts, allow some time to heal your wounded pride. Once you’ve recovered, crack your own joke: “Well, that got rid of my split ends.” Or, “I love the smell of burnt hair, don’t you?” This shows that you’re secure and opens up a line of flirtation with the boy.

Life Span of Man

In the present circumstances, we can say that a man’s life is divided into “tens”, as follows:-

From birth/from 0 to10 Play and Elementary Education,

From 11to 20 Basic and Technical Education,

From 21to 30 Employment and Marriage,

From 31to 40 Begetting Children,

From 41to 50 Accumulating wealth, by savings and investments,

From 51to 60 Marriage of children/Travel around the world,and,

From 61to 70 Retirement/ Rearing Grandchildren.

In the second span of from 11 to 20 the “teen”ages are crossed by the a man and from the
age of 20 “ty”s start and man is becoming old and older, day by day and year by year.

Life Above 70 is a bonus in life granted by God, and if a man is healthy,wealthy and with good children and grand children,otherwise life after the “eighth ten” onwards will be not be peaceful and it is a curse, or hell on earth, and only a few people live healthy wealthy and happy completing 100 years. The above life span is applicable to woman also but the schedule will have some changes, for obvious reasons.

Ideas for surprise wedding proposals

Want to surprise your girlfriend or boyfriend with a marriage proposal? Here are some ideas that may inspire you

When two people have been together for quite some time, questions about marriage and proposals start popping up from every corner. Parents and friends have begun to badger you about when you are planning on proposing. Maybe your partner has even started asking if the relationship will be taken to the next level anytime soon. Sure, you can grab your partner and start looking at rings together which would unofficially mark your engagement, but what fun is that? If you want to surprise your partner with a wedding proposal they will talk about for years to come, here are some ideas that might inspire you.

If you suddenly take your honey out for a weekend getaway to an exotic location, she may figure out that something marital is amiss. This is why you want to aim for total and complete unexpectedness. Maybe you order out pizza and watch movies on Friday nights. Offer to pick up the movies alone. Get some wedding-inspired movies that she loves like “Steel Magnolias” or “Betsy’s Wedding.” Hide the ring box in the pizza box. When you get home, pop the first movie in and set the pizza down in front of you. When she sees which movie you have picked, she will be wondering why you picked it. For a slightly comedic touch, get down on your knee and open the pizza box as if it were the ring box.

Maybe you and your girlfriend love to see new movie releases. Speak to the theater manager beforehand and find out how much it would be to rent one of the slides from the slide show that usually comes on before the feature presentation. Seeing what the reason is for, they may even let you do it for free. With the help of the theater staff, come up with a design for the slide that will get the point across. Maybe you can have the slide read, “Sarah, will you marry me?” If you want to get a little more creative, have the sign read something like, “Sarah Goodman, report to the concession stand immediately.” You can be by the concession stand ready to propose.

One romantic way to propose to your girlfriend is to send her on a scavenger hunt. Naturally, she might sense something is going on if you send her on a random scavenger hunt in the middle of the year, so try to schedule it on an important holiday like Valentine’s Day, your anniversary day or her birthday. This way, she will think the scavenger hunt has nothing to do with a possible proposal. The final clue will send her to you (pick a romantic destination like the site of your first date, a favorite restaurant or a special spot in a park) where you will be waiting ready to propose.

5 ways to know if it’s true love

Wondering if you’ve just met the perfect match? Here are some guidelines to help you decide if it’s true love.

After several dates, you feel you’ve found the perfect person. This is your dream mate, the one who will stand by you through thick and thin. You’re ready to tie the knot at last.

But is it love? Or is it a cheap imitation, like infatuation, lust, or even simple companionship? Here are a few things to consider as you make the ultimate life-changing decision:

1. Do you enjoy looking at the person or talking to the person more? Both are important to a mature relationship, but if you find yourself fixated on physical appearance, attracted to your mate because of face, figure, or form, you may be taking a superficial look at your loved one. On the other hand, you don’t want to be taken in by flattery or false statements. If your significant other is all talk and no action, that can be a warning sign to drop the relationship before you end up with one broken promise after another. A balance of physical and mental attraction is a healthy signal.

2. Are you willing to wait to make the relationship work? For example, if your mate pushes you to do things you don’t feel comfortable with, can you firmly say no? Will your response be handled respectfully and with patience? It goes both ways, too. Are you willing to wait on your partner to get more serious when he or she is ready, or are you demanding more interaction now? Can you wait to marry until the other person finishes school or are you pushing to live together first? Patience is an important virtue associated with successful, long-term relationships.

3. Do you support each other by anticipating and meeting needs? For example, if you need to work extra right now to pay off debt before getting married, does your mate understand that the situation is temporary and willingly wait for you to put in the extra hours at your job, rather than complain about your absence? If the person has a list of errands to run before the two of you can get together, do you offer to help?

4. Are you friends? Companionship lasts much longer than ardor, generally speaking. People in their 70′s, 80′s, and 90′s may lose some of their physical spontaneity, but they maintain a quest for fun and a shared life until the end. Do you laugh together? Enjoy similar activities? Share each other with friends and family? Or do you expect your perfect mate to spend all free time with you exclusively?

5. Do you want what’s best for this person, or do you want what this person can do to help you? For example, if your mate has the chance to get a wonderful job in another city, are you willing to pull up stakes and move, or will you expect the job opportunity to get tossed aside for you? Love means putting the other person’s needs ahead of your own, even when that involves sacrifice. While blind agreement to any difference of opinion is unrealistic and unreasonable, a thoughtful discussion of what is better for each of you individually as well as both of you as a couple needs to take place.

Loving another person involves self-sacrifice and compromise. If you are attracted to someone for whom you are unwilling to be patient and to share all parts of your life, you may have a lot of work to do or disappointment to deal with after the wedding. Take time now to assess your relationship with these and other factors to see if you can make a life that could last fifty years or more with the person of your dreams. Because when you wake up, your mate will still be there.

Tips for relationship success

What’s the key to successful relationships?
1. Without quality time, your relationship will not survive. Carve out at least half an hour a night, and at least one day a month when you the two of you spend time exclusively together.

2. You will both need security, comfort. A good relationship is built on compromise and a great deal of give and take on both sides.

3. Keep your dependence and independence in balance. Tell and show your partner how much you need him, but don’t cling, as that can make your partner feel trapped.

4. Encourage him to listen to you, by showing appreciation when he does. By the same token, show interest when he talks to you. Be aware that most men aren’t mentally programmed for conversation in the way women are. They need more silence and internal time.

5. Make him appreciate you. Don’t wait for a spontaneous compliment, but say something good about yourself and ask for his agreement.

6. Teach him, preferably early in your relationship, exactly how to give you a fail-safe orgasm because it’s unlikely he’ll find out alone. If you don’t yet know yourself, find out.

7. Learn to do the one thing that is most likely to restore good feeling in your relationship – giving your partner a genuine, loving and approving smile.

8.Often those subtle quirks that first attracted you to your partner can, with time, turn around and become toe-curlingly annoying habits. Learn to love him, warts and all.

9. Hidden resentments poison a relationship; so if something bothers you, say it. Remember that while men are wary of emotional conversations, they love to find solutions. Express your problem and then ask him to help you find the answer.

It’s true. If you want happy and supportive relationships in your life, you need to learn the art of encouragement.

Forget diamonds. The only gift that really changes people’s lives forever is encouragement. Encouragement can be given in a range of ways, from support and loyalty to interest and having a positive attitude. Encouragement doesn’t cost anything and it can only add to the sum total of your happiness.

The funny thing about humans is that we are often slow to see the obvious and what works best. When you’re looking for ways to encourage and support other people, you learn to focus on the good characteristics rather than the bad. And you will be gentler and wiser with your criticism than when you’re fixated on what’s wrong with a person.

We love being encouraged ourselves, especially when this is done with sincerity and finesse. We love specific rather than blanket encouragement. And we relish support. Yet we don’t easily take the next step to develop our capacity to encourage others and in turn improve our own relationships and well-being.

Several things get in the way of our being generously and spontaneously encouraging.We often think that encouragement begins and ends with praise – and it may feel awkward to us to praise too often, especially if we grew up in a non-praising family. Encouragement goes beyond praise to include:

* support
* interest
* loyalty
* resilience
* a positive attitude
* trust
* actively desiring the very best for the other person.

Transform your relationships
The qualities listed above are the ones we tend to bring to any new relationship when we are ‘selling ourselves’. The challenge is to keep those qualities alive in a long-term relationship or with people we have known a long time. And these relationships are the ones that will benefit the most from an encouraging attitude.

Advice on Dating

Anyone who has had a nagging mother, an excessively effusive friend, or a smothering steady knows: advice really follows the rules of classical economics – the more that you receive, the less value that it has. Nonetheless, when relationships go foul, people almost instantly do everything but look into their own souls to figure out what the solution is to their problems. You can get advice on dating from almost anywhere. You probably have friends in your life who thinks they specialize in love and romance, sort of self-styled Casanovas who will be more than delighted to volunteer their advice on dating. Besides that, there are internet columns, magazine columns, radio shows, and television programs which emit tens of millions of words and make tens of millions of dollars giving relationship advice to strangers with no reason to trust them but desperation.

The fact is, if you need advice on dating, you had better have a trustworthy and down to earth friend to get it from. There is just no alternative to this. How can you weed through all of the sludge, all of the worthless advice on dating, to find the few nuggets of gold. And even if you do find them, what are the chances that they will apply to you if they were written for a stranger in the first place? But, if you do insist on getting advice on dating, be sure to follow some common sense. Do not trust the mainstream columns. They are popular because of their entertainment, not because of the value of their advice. If they offered the kind of nuanced advice on relationships that is really valuable, they would not have the sensationalist feel that really sells.

Good relationship advice does not come from mass media entertainers, but from qualified professionals. If you are looking for advice on dating, for God’s sake, go to a qualified professional. A Psychologist, Psychiatrist, or Social Worker is trained to help people to sort out all of the aspects of their life, from childhood to grave. They are the only people who are trained to give you advice on dating that is really worth anything. However, just having a degree and some training does not guarantee that you can give dating advice that is worth anything. Above all, like everything else in this life, it comes down to simply learning to trust yourself and your own instincts.

Dating Advice

When looking for dating advice, you have many places to turn. The problem with getting dating advice is that you never know if you are getting good advice. Your mom may actually have some good tips for you, but is she offering helpful advice, or is she trying to get you hooked up fast because she wants grandchildren? To be fair, most people won’t turn to their mothers for dating advice. They often turn to friends who have been successful in finding happiness. This isn’t always a good idea, however, because what works for your friends may not always work for you.

Many have turned to online dating in hopes of meeting someone special. This type of dating had a bad reputation in the past, but has become more legitimate and socially acceptable. It used to be that online dating guaranteed you met up with your worst nightmare. Today, there are many attractive and sane people using online dating to meet their mates. Many of these online dating sites now also offer dating advice. If you choose a good site to sign up with, you can be assured the dating advice they offer will be top notch. You should take the advice with a grain of salt, and use what makes sense for you and your lifestyle.

Besides online dating sites, there are many other places on the Internet where you can find good dating advice. There are websites devoted to helping you find love, and many of these offer great dating advice. A search online will bring up tons of this type of site. Also remember that dating advice is not one size fits all. If you live in an urban area, advice meant to help you find love at the grocery store might not work for you, but then again, it might. You have to take the dating advice you find and suit it to your life, and you may find you don’t need help anymore. It may start to come naturally to you.

If you are newly divorced and looking for dating advice, you will want to look for sites dedicated to helping you catch up on the changes in dating since you were last on the market. If you have friends who have divorced and have successfully reentered the dating scene, they may be the very best source of dating advice for you. Whether you choose online dating sites for advice, or if you turn to family and friends, remember that the very best dating advice is to always be yourself. Have fun, be open, and you may very soon find people are turning to you for dating advice.

Ideas for surprise wedding proposals

Want to surprise your girlfriend or boyfriend with a marriage proposal? Here are some ideas that may inspire you

When two people have been together for quite some time, questions about marriage and proposals start popping up from every corner. Parents and friends have begun to badger you about when you are planning on proposing. Maybe your partner has even started asking if the relationship will be taken to the next level anytime soon. Sure, you can grab your partner and start looking at rings together which would unofficially mark your engagement, but what fun is that? If you want to surprise your partner with a wedding proposal they will talk about for years to come, here are some ideas that might inspire you.

If you suddenly take your honey out for a weekend getaway to an exotic location, she may figure out that something marital is amiss. This is why you want to aim for total and complete unexpectedness. Maybe you order out pizza and watch movies on Friday nights. Offer to pick up the movies alone. Get some wedding-inspired movies that she loves like “Steel Magnolias” or “Betsy’s Wedding.” Hide the ring box in the pizza box. When you get home, pop the first movie in and set the pizza down in front of you. When she sees which movie you have picked, she will be wondering why you picked it. For a slightly comedic touch, get down on your knee and open the pizza box as if it were the ring box.

Maybe you and your girlfriend love to see new movie releases. Speak to the theater manager beforehand and find out how much it would be to rent one of the slides from the slide show that usually comes on before the feature presentation. Seeing what the reason is for, they may even let you do it for free. With the help of the theater staff, come up with a design for the slide that will get the point across. Maybe you can have the slide read, “Sarah, will you marry me?” If you want to get a little more creative, have the sign read something like, “Sarah Goodman, report to the concession stand immediately.” You can be by the concession stand ready to propose.

One romantic way to propose to your girlfriend is to send her on a scavenger hunt. Naturally, she might sense something is going on if you send her on a random scavenger hunt in the middle of the year, so try to schedule it on an important holiday like Valentine’s Day, your anniversary day or her birthday. This way, she will think the scavenger hunt has nothing to do with a possible proposal. The final clue will send her to you (pick a romantic destination like the site of your first date, a favorite restaurant or a special spot in a park) where you will be waiting ready to propose.